Ten Ways to Love By Joy Spatz Pinto

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Listen without interrupting. (Proverbs 18 – One who is alienated seeks a pretext, with all persistence picks a quarrel….)

Speak without accusing. (James 1:19 – Know this, my dear brothers: everyone should be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath, for the wrath of a man does not accomplish the righteousness of God.)

Give without sparing. (Proverbs 21:26 – Some are consumed with avarice all the day, but the just give unsparingly.)

Pray without ceasing. (Colossians 1:9 – We do not cease praying for you and asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding, to live in a manner worthy of the Lord, so as to be fully pleasing, in every good work bearing fruit and growing in the knowledge of God, strengthened with every power, in accord with his glorious might, for all endurance and patience, with joy, giving thanks to the Father, who has made you fit to share in the inheritance of the holy ones in light.)

Answer without arguing. (Proverbs 17:1 – Better a dry crust with quiet, than a house full of feasting with strife.)

Share without pretending. (Ephesians 4:15 – Living the truth in love, we should grow in every way into him who is the head, Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, with the proper functioning of each part, brings about the body’s growth and builds itself up in love.)

Enjoy without complaint. (Philippians 2:14 – Work out your salvation with fear and trembling. For God is the one who, for his good purpose, works in you both to desire and to work. Do everything without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine like lights in the world, as you hold on to the word of life, so that my boast for the day of Christ may be that I did not run in vain or labor in vain.)

Trust without wavering. (1 Corinthians 13:7 – Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.)

Forgive without punishing. (Colossians 3:13 – Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do. And over all these put on love, that is, the bond of perfection. And let the peace of Christ control your hearts, the peace into which you were also called in one body. And be thankful.)

Promise without forgetting. (Proverbs 13:12 – Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a wish fulfilled is a tree of life.)